I’m laughing so hard internally that I can feel my organs constantly bouncing off their permissible limit. It’s a funny world out there, if you haven’t noticed already! And I’m winning. 😉 😉
Struggling to climb the ladder doesn’t get you there. In fact, it only worsens your inferiority complex. I tell you that not to discourage you; I’ve just been there done that for about all my life- until now of course. And with your sad complexities, you only land up feeding the ego of every other dimwit that ever peeked into town. It feels sic, doesn’t it? Hmm. Relax. There is a cure.
If you’re anything like what I’ve been, you’re probably very meticulous, always trying hard to please, extra-jittery, too emotional about any and everything and perennially asking yourself, “Why doesn’t he/she (for example, the person in charge/boss) like me and treat me the way he/she treats everyone else? What have I done wrong?” You’re most likely too self-respecting to stoop and too honest to fake it. You KNOW that the pillars of the place you’re in will come crashing down the minute you’re gone, yet no one shows it; but does that knowledge make you feel secure in yourself? I’m guessing not.
Diplomacy is an art; why else would you think politics remains a winner? There is a fine line between using each pawn in a game of chess to your benefit and in becoming a victim of the game yourself. Each member of the army has his/her own significance; each one has their own insecurities, each one has inane things that make them tick, each one has their own pleasure points. Observe. Step into their shoes- I cannot stress that enough. How do they think?? What makes them emote? Set aside your emotions for a while. You cannot expect to gain, if they haven’t first been analyzed by you. Listen intently- a line, a pointer, a random statement- nothing ever, ever goes to waste. Know your priorities and race ahead to beat the winning horse. You can!
Watch what you say. Your body language, your expressions and your eye movements when you think no one notices- they all matter. Remain a mystery. Show different people different aspects of your personality; let them all feel like they know you- the personal touch they sense is important for your relationships to flourish. The advantage? Onions don’t cry much, do they? And if you haven’t noticed already, nobody manages to cut through every layer at once without shedding a bucketful of tears themselves. 😉 So, the odds of you losing are pretty darn low.
When two of your friends don’t get along, give each of them crisp, quality individual time; they will love you for it. Show maturity- understand, yet crib not! Everybody needs a soothing, calming talk. Give them what they want; you know it when you see them. Your weaknesses will diminish and get sucked into your core, plus the euphoria of tasting victory pretty much makes you forget those sore points entirely!
Lastly, accept favors. People adore, love and respect you. Let them show it! I mean that last one.
And yes, I am the same person you’ve been reading all along. Santa probably just dipped me into a bottle of shiny new paint and gave me my much-needed makeover. My ethics still dictate the beating of my heart and they always will; but if goodness must win, evil needs to concede without even realizing it- that’s what God and I decided last. Be a mirror. Help God!