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Everybody loves themselves a mirror

25 Dec

I’m laughing so hard internally that I can feel my organs constantly bouncing off their permissible limit. It’s a funny world out there, if you haven’t noticed already! And I’m winning. 😉 😉

Struggling to climb the ladder doesn’t get you there. In fact, it only worsens your inferiority complex. I tell you that not to discourage you; I’ve just been there done that for about all my life- until now of course. And with your sad complexities, you only land up feeding the ego of every other dimwit that ever peeked into town. It feels sic, doesn’t it? Hmm. Relax. There is a cure.

If you’re anything like what I’ve been, you’re probably very meticulous, always trying hard to please, extra-jittery, too emotional about any and everything and perennially asking yourself, “Why doesn’t he/she (for example, the person in charge/boss) like me and treat me the way he/she treats everyone else? What have I done wrong?” You’re most likely too self-respecting to stoop and too honest to fake it. You KNOW that the pillars of the place you’re in will come crashing down the minute you’re gone, yet no one shows it; but does that knowledge make you feel secure in yourself? I’m guessing not.

Diplomacy is an art; why else would you think politics remains a winner? There is a fine line between using each pawn in a game of chess to your benefit and in becoming a victim of the game yourself. Each member of the army has his/her own significance; each one has their own insecurities, each one has inane things that make them tick, each one has their own pleasure points. Observe. Step into their shoes- I cannot stress that enough. How do they think?? What makes them emote? Set aside your emotions for a while. You cannot expect to gain, if they haven’t first been analyzed by you. Listen intently- a line, a pointer, a random statement- nothing ever, ever goes to waste. Know your priorities and race ahead to beat the winning horse. You can!

Watch what you say. Your body language, your expressions and your eye movements when you think no one notices- they all matter. Remain a mystery. Show different people different aspects of your personality; let them all feel like they know you- the personal touch they sense is important for your relationships to flourish. The advantage? Onions don’t cry much, do they? And if you haven’t noticed already, nobody manages to cut through every layer at once without shedding a bucketful of tears themselves. 😉 So, the odds of you losing are pretty darn low.

When two of your friends don’t get along, give each of them crisp, quality individual time; they will love you for it. Show maturity- understand, yet crib not! Everybody needs a soothing, calming talk. Give them what they want; you know it when you see them. Your weaknesses will diminish and get sucked into your core, plus the euphoria of tasting victory pretty much makes you forget those sore points entirely!

Lastly, accept favors. People adore, love and respect you. Let them show it! I mean that last one.

And yes, I am the same person you’ve been reading all along. Santa probably just dipped me into a bottle of shiny new paint and gave me my much-needed makeover. My ethics still dictate the beating of my heart and they always will; but if goodness must win, evil needs to concede without even realizing it- that’s what God and I decided last. Be a mirror. Help God!

Vision to RINSE out adamance!

13 Nov

A few days ago, I felt very strongly against people who made it beyond obvious that they cared enough to pay attention to/ respected only the well-dressed, beautified, pancaked, awesomely-fluent, empty-talkers, snobbishly securing their place in society; while practically not caring two hoots about the hard-working, dawn-to-dusk slogging, sincere, honest, dedicated and ethical types. To make matters worse, for the most part, I know that I feature in the lot at the latter half of that statement. 😕 😕

Did it pinch? Oh, yes. Did I complain and make a big show of it to anyone who I felt would stop to listen? Quite as much. But did their answers give me hope? Umm, let’s see. Most said, “That’s the way it is and there’s nothing you or I can do about it.” Some said, “Don’t bother about what the others think; do things for you. Do what makes YOU happy!” Aha! Yes, I know. It’s nice to talk these things, is what I thought as I continued to contemplate and muddle with my depressive feelings; then, just like that, I gave up. I had convinced myself that I’d be OKAY with staying in my dimly-lit life, with an almost invisible profile to my credit. I had decided that I shouldn’t have to change for anyone; it had to be the others who’d have to go in search of vision- vision that’d teach them to appreciate the unique beauty there is in each one of us- the beauty that I was sure, lay in the eyes of the beholder.

Today, God threw me headlong into a crowd that was exactly the kind I had decided I never could be with and surely, didn’t want to become. I found myself struggling with my appearance. [For those who read my other motivational blog and are thinking, “NO! This girl didn’t just say that!” Well, honeys, I just did. Welcome to reality. Grab a big mouthful of it and let’s move back into the conversation, that will continue to remain one-sided for however long I please, of course! 😀] I tried hard to pull on, willing the minutes to pass faster than they seemed to be, making sure I crawled back into my shell as and when time permitted- UNCOOL.

Everything in life needs getting used to; it is true. In a while, before I knew it, the novelty of the fear I was experiencing was gone- now, THAT, my friends, is the beauty of the amazingly short-lived human attention span, which again, is another story in itself, if you ask me! 😉 One thing I noticed while I was there, that I’ll be brave enough to admit to, was this- I formed opinions of people based on how they dressed, spoke and presented themselves, too. FAIL, I thought with regret; but now that I think about it, we all WANT to get better in each aspect of our lives- so, if people look like they take care of themselves and love themselves like they ought to, they obviously teach us a great deal by just breathing the same air and by being in the same room as us. We’re all brilliant pupils who know precisely where there is a lesson worth learning; and we absorb each intricate detail just like we’re meant to.

I WANT to be awesome, fun and self-loving; I want to be a fantastic teacher, too. I know now for sure that external appearances and fabulous talks do not compensate for the requirement of a good heart in anybody. Even a brief encounter can reveal what truly flourishes beneath the surface and if that picture ain’t a pretty one, people ain’t happy- I can vouch for that given what I saw. 🙂

For the knowledge I have found in this day, for the perfect (albeit, concealed) opportunity to understand myself better and for the rigid notions I held on to that continue to melt away as I write, I will remain eternally grateful. I do not know what it is that brings solutions to all of our problems tumbling and bouncing our way- God, our thoughts or some pre-determined script that some call fate– whatever it is, it works; and it works beautifully perfectly, in the most mysterious of all ways possible. I am truly glad it IS all exactly the way it is. 😉